Why I’m Breaking up with Coconut Oil

I am 42 years old and still suffer from cystic acne. It’s been a long and arduous battle to keep my skin care marriage happy. I’ve tried all the popular skin care lines the celebrities talk about in commercials aired during talk shows and teen tv shows. None of them worked for me and some of them made my skin more sensitive to the sun. For this fair skinned woman of German and Irish descent, having sun sensitivity is something I have to be vigilant about. Last year I began flirting with various natural products to figure out what would work best for me. I had divorced all the popular make up lines as well. I started using Bare Minerals several years ago and that did help minimize break outs, but I still had to come face to face with clogged pores and boil-like acne whenever Aunt Flo visited (she’s such an interloper!). It’s been somewhat of a fad to use coconut oil for just about everything, but let me tell you why I stopped using coconut oil on my face.

stopped using coconut oil

I’m breaking up!

For the most part, coconut oil was better for my skin than the other popular and expensive lines I had used before, but as the week of Aunt Flo approached every month, my pores would clog and produce acne. I would dab a bit of coconut oil on each blemish a few times a day and it did clear up faster, but I couldn’t get acne to stop intruding in my life. Every month I had to steam, cleanse, massage, and extract clogged pores. At my age, I shouldn’t have acne. I’m sick of the acne (and I’m sick of having a period, but lets not go there today. Acne is depressing enough as it is).

While I’ve been studying in my aromatherapy course, I came to the lesson on making skin care products. I also happened to see a comment on Dr. Axe’s website mention that coconut oil is a 4 on the comedogenic scale. Yet, many women do use it on their faces without ever getting a clogged pore. While I’m happy for them, I don’t want to be a home wrecker to them. All of our skin and pores are unique and mine just isn’t happy with me using coconut oil.

I’m breaking up with coconut oil. Well sort of. Just when it comes to my face. It’s still great on the feet, elbows, and knees. It’s also a luxurious oral treat to loosen up food particles in between your teeth to help make flossing easier. There are many wonderful uses for coconut oil, I’m just not going to keep lathering it all over my face.

I had to find something else so I started flirting with other oils. Oils for acne prone skin, you ask? Yes!

I tried tea tree oil (Melaleuca), but here’s what happened….indeed it would dry up the acne, but then it just stayed there in the pore, dried up, and looking rather unsightly. Any product that dries up the skin didn’t work out for me. My skin would then work over time and produce tons of oil. I’m not fond of having a lubricated sheen on my face.

I figured my skin is thirsty so why am I trying to dry it up? Using a lower comedogenic moisture rich product is just what my skin needed. For now, I’m using almond oil with Vetiver and Lavender essential oils. Within 24 hours I noticed a remarkable difference in my skin. Almond oil is a 2 on the comedogenic scale, while coconut oil is a 4. I’m currently having that monthly visit from Aunt Flo and my skin looks amazing. Just a couple days prior, I began to have a break out on my chin. That was the day I made the change and that was when my skin actually cleared up during PMS week (instead of 2 weeks later).

To clear that starter acne up faster, I applied Vetiver (neat) to the blemish at night after cleansing and by morning it was just about gone. Two days later and it’s as if it was never there to begin with.

Now let me tell you, I’m NOT a fan of blog articles that offer a “golden ticket” promise when it comes to using essential oils. I don’t like the “hurry, while supplies last” tone I read all over the Internet. I’m going to be downright honest with you so you aren’t mislead in any way. This may not be a popular move among some essential oils reps nor among bloggers who are making money from you buying coconut oil through their affiliate links.

Since all of us have unique skin care needs, you need to find what works for YOUR skin. I still feel like I’m in the experimental stage of discovering what my skin will be happiest with. I’d love to be able to tell you a “my skin lived happily ever after” story, but I’m just not there yet. But I am 100% happily married to essential oils and I will continue to date coconut oil for other reasons.

I’ll keep using almond oil for a month before trying a mix of shea butter and sunflower oil (they’re both a zero on the comedogenic scale). For now, I’m much happier with almond oil than coconut oil. I don’t mean to be fickle, I just have to be more committed to my skin than to a popular trend.

 

 

*Disclaimer: As an Wellness Advocate I provide my personal opinion and experiences with essential oils, and am not endorsed by dōTERRA Corporate. None of what I testify of has been evaluated by the FDA, nor is it intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am not a registered medical professional and I encourage you to discuss your health concerns with your own doctor. I simply share resources and tools to raise consumer awareness. This post may contain affiliate links. Read my full disclaimer here

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When Our Teens Struggle with Wisdom and Peer Pressure

I prefer to write more about wellness than anything else, as it has helped me to find peace for my own life, but sometimes we need to talk about the nitty gritty stuff that gets thrown at us in this life. I don’t like to focus on it, but we can’t ignore it either. I’d rather spend my time talking and writing about solutions than shining a spotlight on the multiple problems we face in today’s world. But let’s be honest for a minute. Parents struggle with doing the right things for our kids and our teens struggle with obeying wisdom and often times surrender to peer pressure to fit in. What’s a parent to do?

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In my 23 years of marriage and raising 4 kids, I’ve seen my fair share of teen drama and parenting skills (and mistakes) to glean wisdom from. When Scott and I married young, we faced tremendous opposition through his addiction. Thankfully, we overcame those years and had plenty of personal experience to teach our kids. We never lied about what we had been through and we do feel it’s made our kids stronger.

As a family, we served in the homeless and addiction/recovery community for 15 years. Our kids have seen shattered lives from the front row and witnessed how hard it was for broken people to get their lives back on track. Then my husband and I faced uncertain turmoil when our own daughter was hospitalized after following a doctor’s recommendation to use medicinal marijuana for her anxiety and sleep disorders.

How could she take something that we had taught her for YEARS to stay away from? How could we face other parents as we seemed to have “failed somehow” in our parenting? What’s a parent supposed to do when their legally adult child follows a doctor’s recommendations?

This was an extremely difficult battle ground for all of us, but we become stronger through it. Thankfully, it didn’t tear us apart like it does to many families.

The day we realized our daughter was ill, she had left her girlfriend’s house on foot (though she had her car with her). She was found running on Highway 1 (PCH, speed limit 55 mph) and crying, “I need my daddy, he was right”.

Parents, please listen to my heart. Don’t beat yourselves up when your kids make decisions you don’t agree with. We need to give ourselves grace so we can extend grace to them, because condemnation against yourself or them isn’t going to help either of you.

Navigating through such turmoil takes a lot of patience, love, and faith. I’m not talking about religion or it’s many rule keeping practices. I’m talking about having a faith, a hope, in something better. In something higher, nobler, and humble.

It’s deep within us all, if we just take the time to discover it. Any good discovery takes lots of digging and exploring. Digging through some personal trenches in our own hearts and exploring impossible possibilities.

This kind of possibility is like striking the mother lode. It’s a gold that is so pure you may not believe you even found it, yet there it is and it’s all yours. It doesn’t come easy and you’ll get rather filthy trying to find it. You’ll scrape your knees and your knuckles may bleed.

And when you see it, you may cry, sob, or shout ecstatically. For me, I cried…sobbed.. the gratitude I found in the exploration, prior to seeing our daughter survive and heal from her tragedy. To be truly thankful before having an answer. That hope you grab a hold of when you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. It’s a life line I’ll never forget.

Yes, I utilized many practices through meditation to help me stay focused. Yes, I thought on stable and empowering mantras and quotes to keep me sane. Yes, I sat in quiet contemplation when I felt my world falling apart.

And all the while I felt a calmness during the storm that is difficult to describe. It wasn’t religious by any means. It’s not something an Atheist would miss. It’s not something that would be hidden from someone of another religion or spiritual practice. It’s not something any parent would miss out on.

It’s something that happens, I think, for any parent who sees their kid suffer.

Have you been there?

*Disclaimer: As an Wellness Advocate I provide my personal opinion and experiences with essential oils, and am not endorsed by dōTERRA Corporate. None of what I testify of has been evaluated by the FDA, nor is it intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am not a registered medical professional and I encourage you to discuss your health concerns with your own doctor. I simply share resources and tools to raise consumer awareness. This post may contain affiliate links. Read my full disclaimer here

I am a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com

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Praying for the Persecuted

In all the years I’ve supped with Jesus, a common dilemma many fellow Christians talk about is prayer. We’ve been taught not to pray in repetition, to pray selflessly, to use just the right words, and much more. Does lighting a candle or rubbing some beads really help to elevate the prayer up to God’s throne room? Is the point of prayer to make it travel heavenward or is it to help transform who we are as individuals? Does prayer get answered swifter if we kneel or lay prostrate on the floor? Will tears help God to hear our hearts better or should we pray silently in the closet? Is there a better way? Because the persecuted really need our prayers.

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I know this, when our daughter was in her darkest moments, it didn’t matter to me how people prayed. I was just very thankful that loved ones were praying.

Now there’s a call to prayer for those suffering at the hands of terrorizing religious extremists. Regardless of what religion the victims practice, can we pray for them without prejudice?

And what do we pray for? Who do we pray for? When lives are on the line I want to make sure I’m not praying amiss.

How do we aim our prayers? Is there a specific target?

We naturally want to pray for the victims and their families, but how do we also pray for our enemies?

Can we pray they will witness true love and sacrifice? Shall we pray that these victims speak the words “I forgive you” as they take their last breaths?

May these terrorists realize that God is a God of love, not hate. Pray they witness deeply inspiring love that transforms them into new creatures.

Whether you pray with candles, beads, on bended knee, hand in hand, or shouting out towards the sea, just pray.

 

*Disclaimer: As an Wellness Advocate I provide my personal opinion and experiences with essential oils, and am not endorsed by dōTERRA Corporate. None of what I testify of has been evaluated by the FDA, nor is it intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am not a registered medical professional and I encourage you to discuss your health concerns with your own doctor. I simply share resources and tools to raise consumer awareness. This post may contain affiliate links. Read my full disclaimer here

I am a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com

Photo hosting, photo sharing, stock photos, Family Friendly Photo Community on Pix-O-Sphere