The Fundamentals of Why Evangelicals Fear Speaking Up

This past week has been quite triggering with stories about the Duggar’s failure to obey God’s divine plan as well as the abusive nature of The Village Church against Karen Hinkley. I’ve been writing about church abuses for several years since leaving the Independent Fundamental Baptist cult movement and these stories make me shake with righteous indignation. Just over a year ago, I ceased from chronicling my experiences to take a much needed hiatus from the topic and find a path of peace. Seeing these stories engulf the Twitter and Facebook feeds has been an eerie reminder to what I experienced and why it’s crucial that we take a long hard look at why this keeps happening.

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Our media (including social media) has given this topic a much needed spotlight and we have this prodigious fortuity to take this by the reigns instead of allowing it to be misguided by pop culture and cult enthusiasts with a thirst for control over the Church and the political landscape.

I know it gets old hearing “not my kind of Christianity” and scarcely do we see a powerful example of what Christianity really is supposed to look like. It’s all too common, among many Christians, that they remain silent while injustice infiltrates the Church.

Why do evangelicals and fundamentalists fear speaking up?

The answer lies dormant while they bury their hands in the sand; unwilling and unable to make a difference.

Elizabeth Esther grabbed the opportunity by the horns and wrestled it down for the Church to see up close and personal.

For centuries, the Church has allowed a tyrannical form of doctrine to permeate its pulpits and hypnotize the members of the pews in American Christianity.

1. They believe in an inerrant doctrine.

In my research of spiritual abuse and church history it became apparent to me that this type of abusive mentality has been in “biblical” practices for so long that people genuinely believe it to be God’s truth to mankind. They are taught that this interpretation of the Bible is inerrant and to be adhered to until the return of Jesus.

2. They are mandated not to question.

For them to question it is akin to a betrayal of the Lord Jesus himself and the consequences vary from eternity in hell to excommunication (or shunning) by their congregations and families. Their dogma cites Peter’s betrayal and Thomas’ doubting, yet omit the fact that Jesus was merciful, gentle, and understanding to both of them.

3. They love celebrity fame.

I was never a fan of the Duggar reality show, because I disagree with pursuing celebrity status in Christ’s name. But since they did submit to TLC’s contract of televising their lives in such a public manner it has brought this substantial spotlight to Christianity and we now have the cue to step up to the mic.

4. They’re blind as a bat; sheep being led to the slaughter.

Millions of Christians will emphatically shout, “That’s not my Christianity”, then struggle to explain why and falter in showing it by example.

They’re deeply immersed in a sludge, like a pelican after an oil spill. They don’t know which way is up and can barely swim to shore for help. Once a rescue worker begins washing the oil with Dawn® dish washing soap, an eye peeks out and wants to shout “caution” to its feathered friends and stutters as its beak is sticky with black tar.

When tyrannical leaders control the flow of information for centuries, we have to start over. We can’t keep picking up the same manuals for church doctrines and practices and think we’re doing it better because the former cult leaders are out of the picture.

We have to STOP using their instructions altogether!

Why in the world would the Duggars, or any other Christian, think using Bill Gothard’s teachings are safe or useful when his abusive mind created those materials to begin with? Should we use Hitler’s journals for our lives too?

The actions of these “leaders” came to fruition due to their thinking. They had muddy vision to begin with and penned all their sordid philosophies into their books and spoke them in sermons that we pass along to one another as truth?!?

We don’t need a reformation of what already exists. We need to burn that damnable thinking down to the ground.

This isn’t “throwing the baby out with the bathwater”. I’m so sick to tears of hearing that cliche thrown around. It’s part of the problem!

Lets start over with WHO the baby really is, shall we?

Jesus is that babe, given to us from above. A cherished gift that reconciled us to God.

Luke 2:10-11  “10And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. 11For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.” ESV

Jesus is NOT in that bathwater you are tossing out. Whatever “baby” is in that stinky water is not Christ. You won’t find him sitting in that filth.

Jesus stoops over us in our bathwater and gently washes over us with Living water.

When you pour fresh water into a glass of muddy water, the water becomes more clear with each drop.

WE are in the bathwater. Jesus is the one bathing us.

While this is a clearer image of the bathwater analogy, even better if we jump out of the tub and into his arms. Peter did!

I’m done with the old fashioned bathtub, give me a natural waterfall to shower in! I don’t want to sit in bathwater that a billion other people have sat in, I don’t even want to be in that tub. Can you just imagine the filth sticking to the sides of the porcelain?

It’s going to take a whole lot more than using essential oils to clean this mess up.

Evangelicals and Fundamentalists are afraid of speaking up. These two camps are just one step shy of becoming ISIS.

  1.  They fear the group leaders and thus the group.
  2.  Their fear has them frozen and gagged.
  3.  This fear is perpetuated by their interpretation of the Bible.
  4.  They fear God instead of trusting Him.
  5.  They fear vulnerability.

Do you see the pattern here? F-E-A-R

Religion entangles us.

  • When people live in fear, they’re easily controlled. (Galatians 5)
  • When you can control the people, you can make a lot of money! (Matthew 21)

Jesus is the Great Liberator.

  • Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is Liberty. (2 Corinthians 3:17)
  • We walk by faith, not by sight or by fear. (2 Corinthians 5)

All of this man generated dogma is like a GMO, poisoning us with every bite.

Aren’t you sick to death of GMO Christianity? Give me a certified organic walk with Christ!

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Homeschool Bloggers are Silent on the Duggar Abuse

Were you watching the Duggar scandal unfold before your eyes and secretly fearing when the media would start accusing “homeschooling” for Josh Duggar’s incestual molestation? It didn’t take long before it came out that the Duggars use Bill Gothard/ATI materials in their homeschool lessons. I find it interesting that I haven’t seen ANY responses about this in the Twitter hashtag stream for #homeschool. More than interesting, I find it appalling. First of all, that no one in that stream has even spoken out about the abuse cover up and even worse they aren’t saying anything about the connection between the abuse and the homeschooling label.

I know “homeschool” is a rather large umbrella over many diverse families from Christian to Atheist, Pagan to Hindu, Gay to Heterosexual and so on. However, we’re still a community of home educators and the media is bound to lump us all in together.

Does that bother me? Yes and no.

1. It bothers me that the lifestyle of homeschooling gets this horrid reputation based on extremist fringe groups and their atrocious practices and teachings.

I’ve said before that it would be great to have more homeschool conferences that were inclusive to all beliefs and home educating methods. But the truth is there are more homeschool conferences catering to this hyper conservative and highly political community.

2. It wouldn’t bother me if the media portrayed all homeschoolers as one group…if they were honest about it.

When are they going to interview a homeschool parent who totally opposes this abuse?

Maybe they’re waiting to find out if there are any!

If they’re looking on Twitter to see what’s going on in the hashtag stream then they won’t find any. How disappointing.

I searched our homeschool blogosphere for any articles about this in hopes I would see compassionate moms speaking out for the victims. I even looked through the Winners list for the 2014 Homeschool Blog Awards and Group Blog nominations list to see if anyone there had said anything. I thought for sure someone over there would have spoken up. I used to write with some of these women.

Not a peep.

Maybe the Circle of Moms Top Homeschool Bloggers have said something.

Nope. It’s crickets on their blogs too.

It’s devastating enough as it is that this kind of abuse (and cover ups) exist in the world, let alone the homeschool community.

Maybe these mom bloggers have never sat with an abuse victim whose parents used the homeschool label as a shield.

Perhaps they didn’t read how Micah feels about seeing news stories like this.

Maybe they’ve never read the articles on HomeschoolersAnonymous.

I wonder if these homeschool blog moms dismiss these abuse stories as a small minority not worth giving attention to.

Should it matter how vast or minuscule abuse stories are to actually speak up about it?

Doesn’t it BOTHER these moms that homeschool graduates are speaking out about how their parents abused them in various ways and hid under the homeschool label?

Does it bother them the wrong way?

Is it so bothersome that they don’t want anyone to know abuse is happening in the homeschool community?

It should be bothering us that it’s happening and it should burn our hide so badly that we boldly speak out about it!

Have the Duggars become such a Christian Idol that Christians are afraid to say anything?

By the looks of Duggar supporters it seems as though that may be the case.

“How dare you say anything about the Duggars. God forgives!”

“Josh just made a mistake, God gives grace.”

“God forgets our mistakes, let it go.”

Really? Is this the best we can do? I sure hope not!

Stop using God’s name in vain.

Spend some time meditating on Romans 13:1-4.

The Duggars lost their moral compass, just admit it.

They made a GRAVE error in their parenting. Not just parenting in general, but as Christian parents.

They forgot how to trust God’s divine plan for government.

May we NOT follow in their footsteps.

Abuse is happening in the homeschool community and we are in a position to speak up about it.

No Christian homeschool blogger should even think of writing about parenting until they address this!

Christian parenting does NOT involve handling abuse in-house.

Here are 5  suggestions for getting help when abuse emerges.

1. Call your family doctor/therapist immediately. Tell them what happened and that your next step is to call CPS.

2. Talk to CPS. Yes, you heard that correctly. CPS has voluntary programs designed for families who come forward on their own in need of assistance with abuse. They offer classes, therapy, family therapy, individual child therapy, family reunification, and a host of other supportive services for the child victims.

3. Do NOT allow the abusive child to be in the house with other children any more until a licensed therapist and your doctor says it’s safe to do so.

4. Find a trusting relative or close family friend (without children) who would be willing to house the child temporarily.

5. Protect the other children AT ALL COSTS.

Facing this kind of travesty is difficult for everyone in the family. It’s incredibly taxing on the parents emotions to separate their family. It’s incomprehensible for a parent to think one of their children would harm their siblings like Josh Duggar did.

As a Christian, it seems to be so much more difficult. Christians hold such a high standard and it’s morbidly shameful to admit to themselves, let alone anyone else, when abuse has happened in their families.

Allow me to offer some comfort to them.

In Romans 13:3 “For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval,”

While one has done bad in being abusive, seeking licensed help right away is doing a good thing. THAT is to be commendable.

I sit here and think…what if?

What IF Mr and Mrs Duggar had handled this in the manner I suggested above?

  • As reality TV stars and famous Christian celebrities they would have had the opportunity to show the world how Christians can obey God’s commands and trust in His divine plan for our government.
  • They would have protected the girls from further abuse.
  • The girls would have developed a deep abiding trust in their parents.
  • Josh (and the family) would have had licensed therapy.
  • Josh would have been brought to justice properly. At the age of 14, his consequences would have been far less severe as they are right now.
  • Fewer girls would have been violated.

If you want to help reduce (even better, STOP) abuse from happening in the homeschool community then speak up about it!

Being silent isn’t going to make it go away.

We don’t want abuse in the homeschool community, so offer some supportive articles for families who are suffering.

Do you know of any homeschool bloggers who HAVE spoken against this abuse? Please share the link in the comments.

 

*Disclaimer: As an Wellness Advocate I provide my personal opinion and experiences with essential oils, and am not endorsed by dōTERRA Corporate. None of what I testify of has been evaluated by the FDA, nor is it intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am not a registered medical professional and I encourage you to discuss your health concerns with your own doctor. I simply share resources and tools to raise consumer awareness. This post may contain affiliate links. Read my full disclaimer here

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How the Duggars Failed to Trust God’s Divine Plan Amid Sexual Abuse

When I ceased from blogging about abuse in the churches, I did so to make a new path for myself. A path of peace, away from the turmoil of dealing with the dark stories that emerge from the pews and pulpits of American Christianity. It can become quite daunting to dig through the rubble of brokenness every single day. Yes, indeed…abuse is daunting, abuse is ugly, abuse is emotionally unattractive.

What Christian wants to portray Christianity as daunting, ugly, and emotionally unattractive? That won’t usher them into the pew! The only other option seems to be hiding the nastiness so people see only the good of church life. Well, that sure is deceptive. Just like how many bloggers want to hide the darkness in the Duggar molestation story and only show the sweet smiles of innocent children on their television screens. You know, because nice girls shouldn’t talk about it.

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But the story of Jesus isn’t all sweet and rosy to begin with. Would we hide the crucifixion of our Lord because it’s dark, bloody, and painful? No, we shine a light on it with good reason.

Is it painful to see what has happened in the Duggar family? Absolutely! It’s a travesty.

Could it have been avoided? Can Christian parents successfully avoid sexual pitfalls when they hold fast to their purity doctrines and practices? The purity movement sure hoped so.

Now the purity culture community has to face the fact that there is a flaw somewhere, but I suspect they will eventually point the finger somewhere other than the actual doctrines and practices. Probably at the devil, because they can’t have their doctrine viewed poorly.

Pointing the finger is a consistent practice among many Christians. However, the Sunday School song teaches us to point to ourselves first.

“It’s me, it’s me, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer.”

Scripture teaches us that judgment BEGINS in the House of God. (1 Peter 4:17)

This doesn’t mean we omit speaking up about abuse that happens outside our own homes. As Christians we have an obligation to the Church and to the world. We have the God ordained duty to stand in the gap for victims worldwide, especially when they’re children.

Millions of people are angry at what has happened to these girls and rightfully so. How dare any of us become angry with the world for speaking out. They’re speaking out FOR THE VICTIMS. That’s what WE’RE supposed to be doing.

God ordained the government to bring justice to wickedness in our world and we usurp God’s authority when we FAIL to trust in His divine plan.

Romans 13:1-4 “1 Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. 2 Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, 4 for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.” ESV

From what I’ve read in countless articles (including the police report) it looks as though the Duggar parents faltered in trusting God’s ordained government to bring their son to justice.  They forgot that properly handing their son over to God’s divine authority of our land would have been a GOOD thing, that brings God’s APPROVAL (see verse 3 above). Sadly, (in verse 4) we see that disobeying that command brings God’s servant to them as the avenger.

In their attempt to being God they have usurped His commands, His authority, and are reaping the consequences.

As a parent of four children, I can understand the fear that must have come over them when they discovered their son was sexually violating their own daughters. I would be mortified if my children ever committed such a crime. They assumed they could handle their “family business” on their own, but then a non-relative girl was also sexually violated. Their primary concern seemed to be for their own son rather than for the girls who were victimized.

We all have failures as parents and it seems as though many bloggers and Facebook friends are taking up that stance. To defend the parents and their son in a very misguided attempt to show grace. Yes, God offers grace, but God is also just.

In God’s divine plan for our government, we have what’s called justice. The carrying out of God’s divine nature of being just.

The symbol of justice is a blindfolded woman holding a balanced scale and a sword. It’s the perfect imagery of the passage from Romans 13.

In our God ordained government, we have what’s called Victim Assistance. They have a free online victim assistance class that teaches you their plan for justice in serving both victims and perpetrators.

As a family so deeply involved in politics and with such an avid thirst for the Constitution, the Duggars seem to have missed this very crucial lesson. One would think that, among their many political friends, they would have learned this at some point.

Perhaps the conservative political community missed it too.

Justice is to bring the abuser and the victims to balance. The government is designed to assist abusers in getting licensed, professional support to change their lives (especially when it’s a minor). At the same time, God’s ordained government is equipped to support victims in receiving licensed, professional support to guide them in their healing.

In doing so, the Duggars would not have left their son helpless (as they may have feared).

They speak of trusting God, but they did not trust his plan.

I don’t condone a “witch hunt” against this family. However, I do support raising awareness about abuse.

We have forgotten that God ordained our government. He GIVES His *authority* to the government for times like these.

We need to trust this.

We need to remember that sin and crime are handled differently.

We do NOT have God’s permission nor His authority to handle CRIME in-house. Especially not the crime of abuse (sexual or otherwise) and most importantly not when it involves children.

The disturbing reality of this popular Christian reality show is not merely this one abuse case. It’s the fact that so much of Christianity is infiltrated with abuse indoctrination and the scary part about it is that they are completely unaware and disbelieving in this fact. Since churches refuse to be awakened to this reality, it continues to fester.

We’re not living under the tyrannical rule of King James anymore. It’s time to cast his mandated abusive doctrines and practices into the pit of hell where it belongs.

Christianity needs to be reborn. We don’t need a reformation of what’s already in existence. We need to eliminate it and embrace the Resurrection as it’s intended to be, a real clean slate.

We need to stop trying to clean up something that’s dead. Stop putting a white dress on a tomb and stop calling it “Christian”.

This isn’t the Christianity I read of in the Bible.

*Disclaimer: As an Wellness Advocate I provide my personal opinion and experiences with essential oils, and am not endorsed by dōTERRA Corporate. None of what I testify of has been evaluated by the FDA, nor is it intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am not a registered medical professional and I encourage you to discuss your health concerns with your own doctor. I simply share resources and tools to raise consumer awareness. This post may contain affiliate links. Read my full disclaimer here

I am a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com

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