When I ceased from blogging about abuse in the churches, I did so to make a new path for myself. A path of peace, away from the turmoil of dealing with the dark stories that emerge from the pews and pulpits of American Christianity. It can become quite daunting to dig through the rubble of brokenness every single day. Yes, indeed…abuse is daunting, abuse is ugly, abuse is emotionally unattractive.
What Christian wants to portray Christianity as daunting, ugly, and emotionally unattractive? That won’t usher them into the pew! The only other option seems to be hiding the nastiness so people see only the good of church life. Well, that sure is deceptive. Just like how many bloggers want to hide the darkness in the Duggar molestation story and only show the sweet smiles of innocent children on their television screens. You know, because nice girls shouldn’t talk about it.
photo courtesy: The Daily Beast
But the story of Jesus isn’t all sweet and rosy to begin with. Would we hide the crucifixion of our Lord because it’s dark, bloody, and painful? No, we shine a light on it with good reason.
Is it painful to see what has happened in the Duggar family? Absolutely! It’s a travesty.
Could it have been avoided? Can Christian parents successfully avoid sexual pitfalls when they hold fast to their purity doctrines and practices? The purity movement sure hoped so.
Now the purity culture community has to face the fact that there is a flaw somewhere, but I suspect they will eventually point the finger somewhere other than the actual doctrines and practices. Probably at the devil, because they can’t have their doctrine viewed poorly.
Pointing the finger is a consistent practice among many Christians. However, the Sunday School song teaches us to point to ourselves first.
“It’s me, it’s me, it’s me oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer.”
Scripture teaches us that judgment BEGINS in the House of God. (1 Peter 4:17)
This doesn’t mean we omit speaking up about abuse that happens outside our own homes. As Christians we have an obligation to the Church and to the world. We have the God ordained duty to stand in the gap for victims worldwide, especially when they’re children.
Millions of people are angry at what has happened to these girls and rightfully so. How dare any of us become angry with the world for speaking out. They’re speaking out FOR THE VICTIMS. That’s what WE’RE supposed to be doing.
God ordained the government to bring justice to wickedness in our world and we usurp God’s authority when we FAIL to trust in His divine plan.
Romans 13:1-4 “1 Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. 2 Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, 4 for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.” ESV
From what I’ve read in countless articles (including the police report) it looks as though the Duggar parents faltered in trusting God’s ordained government to bring their son to justice. They forgot that properly handing their son over to God’s divine authority of our land would have been a GOOD thing, that brings God’s APPROVAL (see verse 3 above). Sadly, (in verse 4) we see that disobeying that command brings God’s servant to them as the avenger.
In their attempt to being God they have usurped His commands, His authority, and are reaping the consequences.
As a parent of four children, I can understand the fear that must have come over them when they discovered their son was sexually violating their own daughters. I would be mortified if my children ever committed such a crime. They assumed they could handle their “family business” on their own, but then a non-relative girl was also sexually violated. Their primary concern seemed to be for their own son rather than for the girls who were victimized.
We all have failures as parents and it seems as though many bloggers and Facebook friends are taking up that stance. To defend the parents and their son in a very misguided attempt to show grace. Yes, God offers grace, but God is also just.
In God’s divine plan for our government, we have what’s called justice. The carrying out of God’s divine nature of being just.
The symbol of justice is a blindfolded woman holding a balanced scale and a sword. It’s the perfect imagery of the passage from Romans 13.
In our God ordained government, we have what’s called Victim Assistance. They have a free online victim assistance class that teaches you their plan for justice in serving both victims and perpetrators.
As a family so deeply involved in politics and with such an avid thirst for the Constitution, the Duggars seem to have missed this very crucial lesson. One would think that, among their many political friends, they would have learned this at some point.
Perhaps the conservative political community missed it too.
Justice is to bring the abuser and the victims to balance. The government is designed to assist abusers in getting licensed, professional support to change their lives (especially when it’s a minor). At the same time, God’s ordained government is equipped to support victims in receiving licensed, professional support to guide them in their healing.
In doing so, the Duggars would not have left their son helpless (as they may have feared).
They speak of trusting God, but they did not trust his plan.
I don’t condone a “witch hunt” against this family. However, I do support raising awareness about abuse.
We have forgotten that God ordained our government. He GIVES His *authority* to the government for times like these.
We need to trust this.
We need to remember that sin and crime are handled differently.
We do NOT have God’s permission nor His authority to handle CRIME in-house. Especially not the crime of abuse (sexual or otherwise) and most importantly not when it involves children.
The disturbing reality of this popular Christian reality show is not merely this one abuse case. It’s the fact that so much of Christianity is infiltrated with abuse indoctrination and the scary part about it is that they are completely unaware and disbelieving in this fact. Since churches refuse to be awakened to this reality, it continues to fester.
We’re not living under the tyrannical rule of King James anymore. It’s time to cast his mandated abusive doctrines and practices into the pit of hell where it belongs.
Christianity needs to be reborn. We don’t need a reformation of what’s already in existence. We need to eliminate it and embrace the Resurrection as it’s intended to be, a real clean slate.
We need to stop trying to clean up something that’s dead. Stop putting a white dress on a tomb and stop calling it “Christian”.
This isn’t the Christianity I read of in the Bible.
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