7 Tips to Help a Recovering Legalist

Coming out of legalism was not easy. Not only were my former friends shunning me, but the ones who seemed to patiently wait for our ‘resurrection from the dead’ were ready to pile on their “I told ya so” arguments. It felt like we had ‘picket lines on both sides of our home’. So I’m going to share with you some hindsight that I hope will help you as loved ones come back to the ‘land of the living’.

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1. Never say, “I told you so” about their former church or pastor.

2. If you can handle it…let them vent without you saying a word.

3. Be ready to hear their emotional vomit. Purging from legalism takes time.

4. If they become legalistic about legalism, know that this is normal. It’s how they process the garbage they were taught. It’s best they do this to convince themselves to never go back. Example: a drug addict in recovery should be just as adamant about the drug world they came out of.

5. Pray for them often and don’t give up hope that they’ll find healing.

6. Never tell them they have a problem with bitterness and unforgiveness.

7. If they confess that they were sexually assaulted or physically abused in any way, help them to talk to a counselor and get a lawyer.

Healing from an abusive religion takes a lot of time. There are so many issues to deal with, tangled messes to unravel, and soul searching to do. May we show more grace to our wounded brothers and sisters as they wrestle with their feelings and beliefs.

Be the kind of Christian friend that would make it worth it for them to keep the faith.

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Pagan Culture and Faith

The local Pagan fellowship has shown such hospitality to us as we have learned about their culture, faith, and heritage. It’s been a tremendous blessing to be able to learn about my own ancestry from them and the respect they give to my own journey in Christ has surpassed any grace I have seen elsewhere. They have welcomed me and not shunned me, nor mistreated me at all. A lot of Christians tend to be fearful and for many years there have been rumors spread around about Pagans that are simply untrue. Our family has been studying world religions in our homeschool and now we are studying ancient religions from before the time of the Council of Nicaea. I have found great value in going directly to the sources when it comes to understanding other religions, as many times some Christian sources on world religions are misinformed. This fellowship gave me permission to photograph their offering elements and as you can see they are rich in culture, textures, and colors. I have entered these into my HomeSpun Photography Collection.

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Special thanks to the Feather River Grove, ADF for welcoming our family and for allowing us to photograph their altar.

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I have been working all summer on my photography and have opened a new page to show off my best work. I will be sharing what I have learned along the way on the new blog at Pix-O-Sphere that is soon to launch. I hope you’ll enjoy the photos.

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Religious Freedom in America

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There’s a shift of Right Wing Religious Activists who are pushing their way through politics in their attempt at making America a Christian nation. I think they missed a few things in their history classes, like when our ancestors came here and wrote the Freedom of Religion into our nation’s Constitution. I shake my head and wonder if they really think all the founding fathers were Evangelical Fundamentalists with hopes to live in a land that was only of their denomination of Christianity. Do people forget that they came and invaded the land of pagans? Where do the pagans flee to for their Freedom of Religion? Oh wait, the Constitution is supposed to protect their Freedom of Religion too.

I do love Jesus, but lets get a few things straight about the Constitution. All American citizens have the freedom to practice their own religions. If we take away this freedom, we lose our own as well. What happens if America becomes a “Christian” nation? Which denomination will we all be forced to follow and adhere to? Are you ready to be forced to stone your kids to death, or sell your daughters to their rapists as they buy their victims to be their wives? Oh wait, they call it a ‘dowry’. Are you preparing yourself to be forced to be baptized a specific way and give 10% of all your income to the Government Church?

I’ve never been proud of the ancestry of the early Americans who forced the native pagans off their land and offered money as their buy off to stop them from defending their free land. Although I admire that the pilgrims fought so hard to flee from the control of the Empire they forsook. Anyone see the irony in that?

They came from forced religion to get freedom of religion, then forced the pagans off their land and now they’re trying to push their religion on the entire nation we now have today.

I just don’t see Jesus working that way.

He said if they don’t listen to you, walk the other way. Not cram it down their throat until they submit.

In America we have the freedom to live out our faith, but not to force it on others.

If Americans don’t want Christianity, it is not our responsibility to force the issue.

Are we going to preserve the Freedom of Religion in America or not?

From the Constitution, Amendment 1: Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

Maybe some Right Wing Politicians and their supporters think that the nation needs better values and laws that uphold those values.

Do they honestly think that only “Christians” have values? Have you ever googled, “pastor arrested”?

Did you know that you can adequately teach values without forcing the God label on it? Do they really think that slapping the God label on a Law will make people want to obey it more? We are SO beyond that forced religious guilt tripping. Give me a break. In fact, give everyone a break.

I follow Christ, but I don’t take his position in the lives of others by assuming *I* have values and they don’t. I don’t place myself above them in an effort to control them or insinuate that they can’t possibly live ‘right’ without my ‘biblical’ teachings.

How arrogant of any Christian to assume such a thing. (pssst a little reminder, pride is a work of the flesh, not the Spirit)

Do we really think God “needs” us to reach a person’s heart? I  am pretty sure that responsibility belongs to the Holy Spirit.

We get the easiest part of living the Kingdom life, love your neighbors as yourself. Why do so many Right Wingers complicate this?

He never promised that His Kingdom was going to be of this earth nor did He promise that Christians were going to be setting up His Kingdom. He set up His Kingdom all on his own.

I sometimes think about how much time we’re all wasting trying to make America into some mega church plantation with rules and laws to live by when we can step outside our front door and love the neighbor over the fence from us. The Kingdom of God isn’t in the White House, it’s in the communion between two neighbors over the fence while they enjoy lemonade together. It’s not in the Supreme Court making laws about a woman’s reproductive system, it’s found in the compassion shown to your neighbor’s daughter who was raped by the bully down the street. The Kingdom is not set up in the Warden’s office, it’s lived in abundantly among the prisoners whose praises echo the concrete halls at night. Christ’s Kingdom of love is not built in political systems surrounded by brick and mortar, it’s built within us all and we get to enjoy it when we participate in our communities. The Kingdom isn’t surrounded with walls and a mote, it’s indwelling the heart within. The best part about it, is that the gate is left wide open for all to come and partake. (Rev 22:17)

Is the gate to your Kingdom within, wide open too?

If I were a politician, I would not be pushing an agenda to Christianize the nation, I don’t believe that’s what Christ would want. The Divine appointed that we be born in a diverse country protected by the Constitution and Freedom of Religion is part of that. Our nation’s system is certainly not perfect, but it is what he has given us and if the Right Wingers want to live in a Christian only nation they may just need to buy a private island and make a country out of it.

I’m thankful to have been born in this time era, in a nation without religious rule. I embrace the diversity among us and value the various cultures celebrated here. I believe in preserving this gift we have been given and I pray the politicians can find a way to find some balance so we can all live freely and love one another.

I plead with my fellow homeschool moms to balance your homeschool teaching to value the Constitution and uphold the First Amendment for future generations.

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